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Q: I just read your column in today's' Greensboro News and Record. For the last few years I've been struggling with change James White Hat , and found your suggestions about ?change tools? to be useful. I was wondering if you have a favorite ?change tool?, and if you would share it with us in a column?


I'm glad you liked the column on change and found it useful for you. And I do have a favorite ?change tool?, and it's called 'the 3 Picture Technique.?


Here are the steps:


1. Specifically define a problem that you are committed to changing.


2. In your own imagination, create three pictures of yourself in the following situations:


How the problem got started - it doesn't have to be an exact date like November 5th, 1992. Just your own sense of when and how this problem began.


How it is now - include what is painful and uncomfortable. This will increase your leverage and motivation for change.


How you would like it to be - create a picture Tom Brady Hat , in the near future, when this problem is solved and things are like you would want them to be.


3. Pretend that we can set up a conference call between these three pictures, as if these three people could talk to each other.


4. Create a conversation between the you now and the you when the problem got started. If you could talk to the person you were when the problem began, how would you answer these questions:


What have you learned about this situation since it began? After you have answered that question, it's important to remember that you have survived and are therefore a resilient person.


If you could send that person a letter entitled ?Things I Knew When I Was You?? Rob Gronkowski Hat , what would you say?


5. Now let's have you talk with the you in the near future, when the problem is solved and things are how you would like them to be. Looking through that future person's eyes, answer the following questions:


What does the person in the future know that you don't know quite yet?


If you could walk out to your mailbox today and get a letter from the you in the future (I don't know how you would do the postage on it!), entitled 'things I wish I knew when I was you?, what would it say?


What are the very next steps and actions to take to head in that direction?


This technique accomplishes at least two important things:


1) It allows you to clean up the past and remove things that are blocking you from changing Jake Bailey Hat , and


2) Provides you with clear direction and actions to get the changes you desire.

When it comes to naming their baby, people tend to fall into two broad categories: those who want a unique name for their child and those who feel fine selecting a common name. Naturally, there are pros and cons to both choices. Let's first look at unique names.

An uncommon baby name will give your child a unique stamp for the rest of his or her life. People will be certain to remember the moment they met your child if their name causes a double take. An unconventional name will make a wonderful conversation starter, especially if there is an interesting story behind it. Your child may even grow to take great pride in their unique and thoughtful name.